My Love Hate Relationship with my Tummy

My Love Hate Relationship with my Tummy

If you ask me what I think of my tummy, I will tell you that I hate it.  But that’s not the full story…..

I hate the size of it. It’s too big and squishy. It makes my trousers feel tight and uncomfortable, it gives my silhouette lumps where it doesn’t need them, and makes me opt for the baggy over bodycon.

But I love why my tummy is big. It’s big because I was one of the fortunate women that was able to fall pregnant and go on to carry and deliver two beautiful babies that are now turning into beautiful children.

I hate my stretch marks.  They are ugly silvery pink scars that will never go away. Even if I am blessed to have a flat tummy again (unlikely!), they are there to make sure that it will never see the light of day.

But I love why my tummy has stretch marks. It stretched to allow my babies to grow inside of me,  protecting them from the outside world until they were ready to meet it.

I hate my large scar. The scar that I have had since I was 26. With pregnancy it has become wider and more unsightly.

But I love why my scar is there. It’s there because the doctor took away the cancer, the cancer that sat silently in a mole that could have killed me if not removed.

So I hate my tummy, yes, but I think my tummy is pretty amazing and I try and remember to give it a hug every day.

 

Kerry x

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40 Comments

  1. Aimee
    February 4, 2016 / 10:31 am

    This made me cry. I LOVE this. So true and relatable. You go lady xx

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 4, 2016 / 11:49 am

      Thank you Aimee, I’ve wanted to write this for years. We all need to remember how amazing our bodies are and what they can do, and not get hung up on what we think we should look like! Thanks for your comment xx

  2. February 6, 2016 / 4:09 pm

    Great post, really love this. It’s funny how we all have these love/hate relationships with our bodies but it’s so important to focus on the positives as you have done. And for the record, I’m sure your tummy is rather lovely! #justanotherlinky

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 7, 2016 / 9:45 am

      Thank you. Yes we definitely need to embrace the positives, but I will always be my own worst critic!

  3. February 8, 2016 / 4:14 am

    Wow this post says all the things I think about my tummy too. I love this.

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 8, 2016 / 4:29 pm

      Thank you, we need to all love our amazing bodies x

  4. BecomeMum
    February 8, 2016 / 9:56 am

    Tummy cuddles are hard, but also lovely. It can be difficult to love our skin when it has changed so quickly from something that we knew for so long! Thanks for the different take – I need to learn to love my tummy #justanotherlinky

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 8, 2016 / 4:31 pm

      We all need to love our bodies, look how amazing they are! X

  5. February 10, 2016 / 10:06 am

    Awww, I love this so much! All the stretch marks and the squishy belly, the scars and everything else is so, so worth it. We need to love our bodies more! Loved this post. #BestAndWorst.

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 10, 2016 / 2:04 pm

      Thank you Sarah, I agree, it’s definitely worth it x

  6. February 10, 2016 / 11:18 am

    This is so true. I love my tummy but I hate it at the same time. I’m more accepting of it now that I know that my tummy looks the way it does (flabby and stretch marks) because I carried my little boy in there! It was his home for 9 months, so how can I dislike it? #bestandworst

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 10, 2016 / 2:03 pm

      Exactly! Our bodies are amazing, we need to learn to love them x

  7. February 10, 2016 / 8:41 pm

    Amazing post and so real. You can see how amazing that tummy of yours is and what it has achieved. A few battle scars are some good proof. Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 10, 2016 / 8:54 pm

      Thank you, I was nervous about putting it out there, but feel it’s an important message. Your comments mean a lot xx

  8. February 10, 2016 / 9:50 pm

    Lovely post. So good to be able to see the positives as what is really important so you can accept the negatives. #bestandworst

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 11, 2016 / 6:13 pm

      Thank you, yes I totally agree!

  9. February 11, 2016 / 8:12 am

    Such a lovely perspective on pregnancy and its after effects – I’ll be sure to tell my pregnant wife how much I love her tummy, both now and after, stretch marks and all!

    P.S. Although a man, I have also had stretch marks since my teens after a serious growth spurt…hate them, but having read this, I’m thankful for being so tall as a result!

    #coolmumclub

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 11, 2016 / 6:16 pm

      Thank you, it’s lovely to hear the male perspective x

  10. February 11, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    This is a beautiful blog post – it is certainly a reminder of what is important in life. Thank you for sharing it with #coolmumclub

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 11, 2016 / 9:45 pm

      Thank you for your kind comments, means a lot x

  11. Something Crunchy Mummy
    February 12, 2016 / 5:03 pm

    Such an honest post. Thank you for writing this. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 12, 2016 / 10:29 pm

      Thank you, and thanks for hosting and giving me the opportunity to share! x

  12. February 15, 2016 / 2:28 pm

    This is so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. Our bodies are amazing aren’t they? x

    • Kerry
      Author
      February 15, 2016 / 3:26 pm

      Thank you. Yes they are we all just need to appreciate ourselves a little more x

  13. March 11, 2016 / 7:28 am

    I’d have to check with you here. Which is not something I usually do! I enjoy reading a post that will make people think. Also, thanks for allowing me to comment!

  14. April 17, 2016 / 7:42 am

    My mummy has a love/hate relationship with her tummy too! *shes currently sat with a SlenderTone belt on it!* a beautiful and honest post, made her think xx #KCACOLS

    • Kerry
      Author
      April 17, 2016 / 6:25 pm

      Yes, my mum too. No matter how are babies are we need to be grateful about what our bodies have achieved x

    • Kerry
      Author
      April 17, 2016 / 6:29 pm

      Whatever age our babies are we need to appreciate how amazing our bodies are and what they have achieved x

  15. April 17, 2016 / 9:51 am

    Such a wonderful post. We should all learn to appreciate ourselves a bit more and our bodies which have done some amazing things 🙂 #KCACOLS

    • Kerry
      Author
      April 17, 2016 / 6:30 pm

      My thoughts exactly x

  16. Davina
    April 17, 2016 / 12:22 pm

    I have a love/hate relationship with a lot of parts of my body. I don’t think any of us will ever be happy with ourselves really. But you’re absolutely right; we have a lot to be thankful for too. Lovely post. #KCACOLS

    • Kerry
      Author
      April 17, 2016 / 6:35 pm

      Of course I’ll never be happy with my body, but I just try and appreciate it for what it has done. Thank you x

  17. April 17, 2016 / 3:41 pm

    Oh gosh what a lovely post! I’m so sorry that you had cancer, I hope that you are okay now. I recently had a mole removed and have a large scar on my leg, but rather that then the alternative. For the record, your tummy is beautiful. #KCACOLS

    • Kerry
      Author
      April 17, 2016 / 6:36 pm

      Thank you. I am fine now, but it certainly makes you more wary of the sun. x

  18. April 17, 2016 / 6:20 pm

    I love this – it’s exactly how I feel! I’m so proud of what my body has achieved, so what if it’s left me with a bit of a tummy 🙂 #KCACOLS

    • Kerry
      Author
      April 17, 2016 / 6:39 pm

      Exactly! That’s how all mums should feel x

  19. April 21, 2016 / 2:17 pm

    Lovely. I think all us mums have body bits we don’t like but we love them for what they have given us xx

    #KCACOLS

    • Kerry
      Author
      April 21, 2016 / 5:38 pm

      Thank you, I agree x

  20. April 23, 2016 / 3:14 pm

    Oh I love this post!! I also feel the exact way. I hate and love my tummy for the same reasons. Although I would really like to lose some weight as it is getting bigger and bigger by the day!! LOL Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I would to see you again tomorrow, 🙂 xx

    • Kerry
      Author
      May 1, 2016 / 3:47 pm

      Thank you, I think we all feel like that. Thanks for hosting x

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