My Love Hate Relationship with my Tummy

February 3, 2016 40 Comments

If you ask me what I think of my tummy, I will tell you that I hate it.  But that’s not the full story…..

I hate the size of it. It’s too big and squishy. It makes my trousers feel tight and uncomfortable, it gives my silhouette lumps where it doesn’t need them, and makes me opt for the baggy over bodycon.

But I love why my tummy is big. It’s big because I was one of the fortunate women that was able to fall pregnant and go on to carry and deliver two beautiful babies that are now turning into beautiful children.

I hate my stretch marks.  They are ugly silvery pink scars that will never go away. Even if I am blessed to have a flat tummy again (unlikely!), they are there to make sure that it will never see the light of day.

But I love why my tummy has stretch marks. It stretched to allow my babies to grow inside of me,  protecting them from the outside world until they were ready to meet it.

I hate my large scar. The scar that I have had since I was 26. With pregnancy it has become wider and more unsightly.

But I love why my scar is there. It’s there because the doctor took away the cancer, the cancer that sat silently in a mole that could have killed me if not removed.

So I hate my tummy, yes, but I think my tummy is pretty amazing and I try and remember to give it a hug every day.

 

Kerry x

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40 Comments

  • Aimee February 4, 2016 at 10:31 am

    This made me cry. I LOVE this. So true and relatable. You go lady xx

    • Kerry February 4, 2016 at 11:49 am

      Thank you Aimee, I’ve wanted to write this for years. We all need to remember how amazing our bodies are and what they can do, and not get hung up on what we think we should look like! Thanks for your comment xx

  • laura dove February 6, 2016 at 4:09 pm

    Great post, really love this. It’s funny how we all have these love/hate relationships with our bodies but it’s so important to focus on the positives as you have done. And for the record, I’m sure your tummy is rather lovely! #justanotherlinky

    • Kerry February 7, 2016 at 9:45 am

      Thank you. Yes we definitely need to embrace the positives, but I will always be my own worst critic!

  • Nicole February 8, 2016 at 4:14 am

    Wow this post says all the things I think about my tummy too. I love this.

    • Kerry February 8, 2016 at 4:29 pm

      Thank you, we need to all love our amazing bodies x

  • BecomeMum February 8, 2016 at 9:56 am

    Tummy cuddles are hard, but also lovely. It can be difficult to love our skin when it has changed so quickly from something that we knew for so long! Thanks for the different take – I need to learn to love my tummy #justanotherlinky

    • Kerry February 8, 2016 at 4:31 pm

      We all need to love our bodies, look how amazing they are! X

  • Sarah February 10, 2016 at 10:06 am

    Awww, I love this so much! All the stretch marks and the squishy belly, the scars and everything else is so, so worth it. We need to love our bodies more! Loved this post. #BestAndWorst.

    • Kerry February 10, 2016 at 2:04 pm

      Thank you Sarah, I agree, it’s definitely worth it x

  • It's A Mummy & Baby Life February 10, 2016 at 11:18 am

    This is so true. I love my tummy but I hate it at the same time. I’m more accepting of it now that I know that my tummy looks the way it does (flabby and stretch marks) because I carried my little boy in there! It was his home for 9 months, so how can I dislike it? #bestandworst

    • Kerry February 10, 2016 at 2:03 pm

      Exactly! Our bodies are amazing, we need to learn to love them x

  • Sarah Howe (@RunJumpScrap) February 10, 2016 at 8:41 pm

    Amazing post and so real. You can see how amazing that tummy of yours is and what it has achieved. A few battle scars are some good proof. Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x

    • Kerry February 10, 2016 at 8:54 pm

      Thank you, I was nervous about putting it out there, but feel it’s an important message. Your comments mean a lot xx

  • Silly Mummy February 10, 2016 at 9:50 pm

    Lovely post. So good to be able to see the positives as what is really important so you can accept the negatives. #bestandworst

    • Kerry February 11, 2016 at 6:13 pm

      Thank you, yes I totally agree!

  • youthedaddy February 11, 2016 at 8:12 am

    Such a lovely perspective on pregnancy and its after effects – I’ll be sure to tell my pregnant wife how much I love her tummy, both now and after, stretch marks and all!

    P.S. Although a man, I have also had stretch marks since my teens after a serious growth spurt…hate them, but having read this, I’m thankful for being so tall as a result!

    #coolmumclub

    • Kerry February 11, 2016 at 6:16 pm

      Thank you, it’s lovely to hear the male perspective x

  • MMT February 11, 2016 at 7:59 pm

    This is a beautiful blog post – it is certainly a reminder of what is important in life. Thank you for sharing it with #coolmumclub

    • Kerry February 11, 2016 at 9:45 pm

      Thank you for your kind comments, means a lot x

  • Something Crunchy Mummy February 12, 2016 at 5:03 pm

    Such an honest post. Thank you for writing this. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx

    • Kerry February 12, 2016 at 10:29 pm

      Thank you, and thanks for hosting and giving me the opportunity to share! x

  • Fatima @ Baby Toddler Me February 15, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    This is so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. Our bodies are amazing aren’t they? x

    • Kerry February 15, 2016 at 3:26 pm

      Thank you. Yes they are we all just need to appreciate ourselves a little more x

  • superheroes and their powers March 11, 2016 at 7:28 am

    I’d have to check with you here. Which is not something I usually do! I enjoy reading a post that will make people think. Also, thanks for allowing me to comment!

  • Baby Isabella April 17, 2016 at 7:42 am

    My mummy has a love/hate relationship with her tummy too! *shes currently sat with a SlenderTone belt on it!* a beautiful and honest post, made her think xx #KCACOLS

    • Kerry April 17, 2016 at 6:25 pm

      Yes, my mum too. No matter how are babies are we need to be grateful about what our bodies have achieved x

    • Kerry April 17, 2016 at 6:29 pm

      Whatever age our babies are we need to appreciate how amazing our bodies are and what they have achieved x

  • Emma April 17, 2016 at 9:51 am

    Such a wonderful post. We should all learn to appreciate ourselves a bit more and our bodies which have done some amazing things 🙂 #KCACOLS

    • Kerry April 17, 2016 at 6:30 pm

      My thoughts exactly x

  • Davina April 17, 2016 at 12:22 pm

    I have a love/hate relationship with a lot of parts of my body. I don’t think any of us will ever be happy with ourselves really. But you’re absolutely right; we have a lot to be thankful for too. Lovely post. #KCACOLS

    • Kerry April 17, 2016 at 6:35 pm

      Of course I’ll never be happy with my body, but I just try and appreciate it for what it has done. Thank you x

  • laura dove April 17, 2016 at 3:41 pm

    Oh gosh what a lovely post! I’m so sorry that you had cancer, I hope that you are okay now. I recently had a mole removed and have a large scar on my leg, but rather that then the alternative. For the record, your tummy is beautiful. #KCACOLS

    • Kerry April 17, 2016 at 6:36 pm

      Thank you. I am fine now, but it certainly makes you more wary of the sun. x

  • Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons April 17, 2016 at 6:20 pm

    I love this – it’s exactly how I feel! I’m so proud of what my body has achieved, so what if it’s left me with a bit of a tummy 🙂 #KCACOLS

    • Kerry April 17, 2016 at 6:39 pm

      Exactly! That’s how all mums should feel x

  • RACHEL BUSTIN April 21, 2016 at 2:17 pm

    Lovely. I think all us mums have body bits we don’t like but we love them for what they have given us xx

    #KCACOLS

    • Kerry April 21, 2016 at 5:38 pm

      Thank you, I agree x

  • A Moment with Franca April 23, 2016 at 3:14 pm

    Oh I love this post!! I also feel the exact way. I hate and love my tummy for the same reasons. Although I would really like to lose some weight as it is getting bigger and bigger by the day!! LOL Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I would to see you again tomorrow, 🙂 xx

    • Kerry May 1, 2016 at 3:47 pm

      Thank you, I think we all feel like that. Thanks for hosting x

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