My Love Hate Relationship with my Tummy

If you ask me what I think of my tummy, I will tell you that I hate it.  But that’s not the full story…..

I hate the size of it. It’s too big and squishy. It makes my trousers feel tight and uncomfortable, it gives my silhouette lumps where it doesn’t need them, and makes me opt for the baggy over bodycon.

But I love why my tummy is big. It’s big because I was one of the fortunate women that was able to fall pregnant and go on to carry and deliver two beautiful babies that are now turning into beautiful children.

I hate my stretch marks.  They are ugly silvery pink scars that will never go away. Even if I am blessed to have a flat tummy again (unlikely!), they are there to make sure that it will never see the light of day.

But I love why my tummy has stretch marks. It stretched to allow my babies to grow inside of me,  protecting them from the outside world until they were ready to meet it.

I hate my large scar. The scar that I have had since I was 26. With pregnancy it has become wider and more unsightly.

But I love why my scar is there. It’s there because the doctor took away the cancer, the cancer that sat silently in a mole that could have killed me if not removed.

So I hate my tummy, yes, but I think my tummy is pretty amazing and I try and remember to give it a hug every day.


Kerry x


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    1. Thank you Aimee, I’ve wanted to write this for years. We all need to remember how amazing our bodies are and what they can do, and not get hung up on what we think we should look like! Thanks for your comment xx

  1. Great post, really love this. It’s funny how we all have these love/hate relationships with our bodies but it’s so important to focus on the positives as you have done. And for the record, I’m sure your tummy is rather lovely! #justanotherlinky

  2. Tummy cuddles are hard, but also lovely. It can be difficult to love our skin when it has changed so quickly from something that we knew for so long! Thanks for the different take – I need to learn to love my tummy #justanotherlinky

  3. Awww, I love this so much! All the stretch marks and the squishy belly, the scars and everything else is so, so worth it. We need to love our bodies more! Loved this post. #BestAndWorst.

  4. This is so true. I love my tummy but I hate it at the same time. I’m more accepting of it now that I know that my tummy looks the way it does (flabby and stretch marks) because I carried my little boy in there! It was his home for 9 months, so how can I dislike it? #bestandworst

  5. Such a lovely perspective on pregnancy and its after effects – I’ll be sure to tell my pregnant wife how much I love her tummy, both now and after, stretch marks and all!

    P.S. Although a man, I have also had stretch marks since my teens after a serious growth spurt…hate them, but having read this, I’m thankful for being so tall as a result!


  6. Such a wonderful post. We should all learn to appreciate ourselves a bit more and our bodies which have done some amazing things 🙂 #KCACOLS

  7. I have a love/hate relationship with a lot of parts of my body. I don’t think any of us will ever be happy with ourselves really. But you’re absolutely right; we have a lot to be thankful for too. Lovely post. #KCACOLS

  8. Oh gosh what a lovely post! I’m so sorry that you had cancer, I hope that you are okay now. I recently had a mole removed and have a large scar on my leg, but rather that then the alternative. For the record, your tummy is beautiful. #KCACOLS

  9. Oh I love this post!! I also feel the exact way. I hate and love my tummy for the same reasons. Although I would really like to lose some weight as it is getting bigger and bigger by the day!! LOL Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I would to see you again tomorrow, 🙂 xx

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