Why is it when you are pregnant people view you as public property? Strangers seem to think it’s OK to say whatever they think, and it’s NOT OK! When I was pregnant I actually felt self conscious about my rapidly changing body, and this was not helped by comments made by people who didn’t think before they spoke!
So I have been pregnant twice in my life, and yes I was huge by most peoples standards. However does being pregnant give people the right to make negative comments about my body? Or invade my personal space without invite? No it shouldn’t, but for some reason people think it’s fair game to say whatever they think when you’re pregnant. These are a few things that were said to my during my two pregnancies by strangers or very loose acquaintances.
I’m Pregnant but That’s Not OK to Say!
- Are you sure you’re not having twins? Yes I am sure, and so was the Doctor, midwife and 2 ultrasonographers, are you implying that I am larger than I should be?
- How ARE you going to lose the weight after the baby is born? Do you think they are trying to tell me I’ve put on more than I should have? Do I go around asking people how they plan to loose weight, or how they plan to stop being utter imbeciles? NO, point made.
- You are going to need some cream for those stretchmarks. I don’t know who trained her as a sales consultant, but to approach a pregnant women, invade her personal space and touch her bump, and then insult her! Well what a way to sell a product.
- Your baby is going to be massive, ouch! Thanks for that, as a first time mum i’m not anxious at all about labour and child birth.
- You wont make your due date. A complete stranger thinking it’s OK to imply that he thinks my baby will be premature, just because he thinks I’m too big for my dates.
- Oh my god, you are enormous! Yes, someone actually said that to me. Well actually shouted it at me across a busy restaurant. She was the bar maid of a pub I used to frequent. Needless to say I didn’t stay to chat.
Obviously I had some lovely comments too when I was pregnant, but isn’t it funny how the horrid ones just stick in our minds. People really need to think before they speak, body shaming is unacceptable, pregnant or not!